Working on Reconciliation

My last blog was about my wife's return from her affair with a man in North Carolina the past year.  I love and forgive her, the process to recovery is slow as expected, as many emotions tend to surface at the wrong time.  I am happy to report that it's going well, despite many setbacks.  One of my biggest challenges is to prevent this man from contacting her.  I have resorted to inform all his neighbors, churches and businesses in his area, of the danger he is to families.  He worked her over the internet for 17 months, a total of 15,000 emails in all.  She left with no debt, and returned with $20,000.00 US of credit card debt.  What kind of man would do this to someone, to a family?  I was very successful, as he lives in the Black Mountain region of NC, where small town gossip just travels.  He owns the "Raspberryhill Bed and Breakfast" which is well known in the area.  There are no limits to stop me from preventing this man from harming us any further.  Reconciliation is a worthwhile effort between 2 people, not 3.  We are married 34 years, and we are making huge strides to continue our years together as happily as we can.  I still encourage reconciliation, as it provides the best of fruits between 2 married people.  All married persons would do well to discuss problems before they expand and are unrepairable.  In long marriages communication does "fall by the wayside", and it's communication that truely does keep the relationship strong and healtly.  Unfortunately divorce is the first choice among couples who encounter a roadblock.  I hope my example will encourage couples to think twice before making the biggest mistake in their lives.  Of course, divorce is sometimes necessary and must be the only road to take.  Divorce effects our economy more than most social problems of our day.  Perhaps, we will someday get it right.